"And now you know… the rest of the story."

Discussion in 'worldEvents' started by LeeHere Absent, 17 Mar 2011.

  1. LeeHere Absent

    LeeHere Absent Just Lee
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    When I was in my early twenties, I casually dated a guy who started breaking into my place while I was gone. I lived alone in a studio apartment in the San Francisco Bay area...and I'm female. When I came home and the toilet seat was up, I pretty much knew he had been there. I called him on it. He didn't bother to deny it.
     
  2. Wad

    Wad Drama is Fascinating
    Zorro

    So, did you start dating him before or after he started breaking in? :cool:
     
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  3. LeeHere Absent

    LeeHere Absent Just Lee
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    He also did this thing where he would come to my apartment around 3am and make noise outside like maybe someone was breaking in. The idea was to scare me and make me feel vulnerable so I'd "need" him. I confronted him about that too. I told him it was having the exact opposite effect he was going for...when I heard a bump in the night I just figured it was him being an ass and I'd just roll over and go back to sleep.
     
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  4. LeeHere Absent

    LeeHere Absent Just Lee
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    Another virtual world ethics story...

    When virtual friends are no friends at all
    Sydney Morning Herald editorial
    May 19, 2011
    The group is called the "Brocial Network" and the members are "Bros." It was created two weeks ago and has 8000 members. The women who had their privacy and trust violated have no legal remedy according to the article. Some of the women became aware of the issue when they were contacted by a reporter.
    The article goes on to discuss the social and ethical ramifications of the actions of the group.

    Read more: http://www.smh.com.au/opinion/edito...ends-at-all-20110518-1et1o.html#ixzz1Mj7bGaAQ
     
  5. colleen Criss

    colleen Criss Your life will never be the same again.
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    Wow! See .... if I were one of those women I'd take my sites down now. It may kill all the Bro links. Trusting people on the net....:stooges:. I learned right here on this site that lesson. I wont be repeating it anywhere. I hated to share the ER story , I don't want to be vulnerable or give anyone anything that can be used against me later for any reason. I hugged Jolene cuz I can't share there either.
     
  6. LeeHere Absent

    LeeHere Absent Just Lee
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    In all likelihood, because the men took those images from private pages with privacy settings that required log in and "friendship," the men probably downloaded or screenshotted the images in order to get them to appear on the other page for others (without those same privacy privileges) to see, so breaking the link by removing the images would not help these women. My bet is that their images, their names and their information is there to stay until someone dismantles the Brocial Network group, and even then, men in that group could have and probably did copy the information to another location.

    That's one of the things people forget. Once the image is up, it's up. Deleting it or taking it down is not the be-all-and-end-all fix. Images are cached, people download them, copy them, take screenshots of them. At best it's a "maybe shot, so try it, because what else are you going to do and hey, there's a chance no one has copied the picture yet" strategy. At worst, "it's closing the barn door after the horse is gone."

    I think one of the issues of the internet is the vulnerability of the ramp up time for people becoming netizens. They get excited, they put all this information out there and it can take a year or more before they learn all the ins and outs of the internet and find out how much they have exposed themselves and what the risks are. A year in which their information sat out there for anyone to do anything with.
     
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  7. Liona Clio

    Liona Clio Poetry in Motion
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    As much as I think members of "The Brocial Network" are a bunch of horse's-asses, I do have to agree with the idea that there really is no such thing as privacy in a public space. And the Internet is a public space (as opposed to an Intranet, which is a private network). Even if these women had these pictures in 'private' areas...they are responsible for the key that opens the lock.

    Victimization sucks, and victimizers are scum. But if you make anything (steamy fanfic story, love letter, racy picture) that you might be embarassed about, it's on you to protect that private content. Don't put nudie photos of yourself on any server that could possibly be accessed by people you don't want looking. Facebook is *not* a private site.

    And if you learn this the hard way...well, at least you've learned, hopefully.
     
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  8. Kick Frenzy

    Kick Frenzy HUZZAH!
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    You know, that's a great point and sounds like it should be made a standard class (even if it's only a few classes) in schools.
    Are they doing that yet? Serious classes about approaching the internet?
    Like, maybe one course in 6th grade and a short refresher in 8th?

    Parents have that responsibility foremost, but it couldn't hurt to have required classes for learning internet safety with some tips and tricks thrown in for fun. Yes? No? Already happening?
     
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  9. Orfeu Miles

    Orfeu Miles Lurker
    Wtf

    A one month membership of gv should be compulsory for all aspiring netizens.
    If we don't train you how to act with grace and decorum on the Intertubez....who will ??
     
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  10. colleen Criss

    colleen Criss Your life will never be the same again.
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    ROFL
     
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  11. Wad

    Wad Drama is Fascinating
    Zorro

    This cracked me up. Reading it instantly brought "The He-man Women-haterz Club" (from Little Rascals fame) to mind.

    I've been peppering the internet with nude dick shots of myself for more than a decade...And all I got for it was griefers like WE asking for a date...:whistling:...it's just not fair I tell ya!
     
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  12. LeeHere Absent

    LeeHere Absent Just Lee
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    Um, excuse me...
     
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  13. LeeHere Absent

    LeeHere Absent Just Lee
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    Jamie Oliver is the latest celebrity to jump into social games
    May 19, 2011
    http://latimesblogs.latimes.com/ent...test-celebrity-to-jump-into-social-games.html
     
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  14. LeeHere Absent

    LeeHere Absent Just Lee
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    Keewl!

    Augmented reality has potential to reshape our lives
    http://www.usatoday.com/tech/news/2011-05-16-augmented-reality_n.htm
     
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  15. LeeHere Absent

    LeeHere Absent Just Lee
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    Understatement

    I feel this should get some kind of nomination for "understatement of 2010." It does, however, and for whatever odd reason, remind me a little of this forum...
    http://www.usatoday.com/life/people/2010-12-16-40-year-old-virgin-stabbing_N.htm?csp=obinsite

    Parts of the rest of the story reminded me of the original post in this thread.

    Fine print: No, I am not literally comparing a tragic real-life domestic violence stabbing with the shenanigans that go on in this forum. It was a slightly tongue-in-cheek figurative comparison. Although the quote did literally remind me of gV.
     
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  16. LeeHere Absent

    LeeHere Absent Just Lee
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    Oops.

    A woman walked into the courtroom where jury selection was in process for the trial of Casey Anthony, a woman accused of killing her toddler. The interloper blurted out, "She killed somebody anyway." This, naturally, caused a bit of a ruckus, so the judge stopped the proceedings, cleared everybody out of the court except the woman in question and essentially asked, "what the hell."

    The woman said she was in the courthouse for an unrelated domestic dispute and just wandered into that court room and went with an urge. Faced with being charged with contempt of court, she held onto her shoes (literally) and burst into tears. She explained that she had never been to court before and that she was a "mentally-challenged" schizophrenic with a serious drug-addiction problem. The judge considered sentencing the woman to 179 days in jail, but in light of her "disability," dropped it down to two days instead.

    One potential juror was lost in the ruckus. I'm not quite sure how that part of the story went down. Perhaps they were down to the one-on-one portion of the interview and selection process.

    I was once in a jury pool that got invalidated because someone said something in front of all of us that we should not have heard, but in that case, I believe it was the judge who was at fault.

    Judge: When you indicate that you have seen the defendant before and know him or of him, when did you see him and how do you know him?
    Juror: I was on the jury the last time he was prosecuted for drugs and theft.
    Everyone: Goodnight everybody!

    http://www.cbsnews.com/8301-504083_162-20064796-504083.html
    http://abcnews.go.com/US/casey-anthony-murder-trial-set-begin-delays-jury/story?id=13645611
     
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  17. LeeHere Absent

    LeeHere Absent Just Lee
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    True face of an online predator

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    They're calling her the "Facebook Predator." She doesn't even have a computer. She used a phone with internet access to create multiple personas, to get into relationships with teenage boys and to get them emotionally committed before "killing off"' her alts to wreak emotional havoc on the boys. She also solicited pornographic videos from one young man and then threatened to publicize them on the internet. She had real-life sex with a 16-year-old boy and is being accused of contributing to the drug abuse of one boy and the suicide of another.

    http://www.nzherald.co.nz/nz/news/article.cfm?c_id=1&objectid=10727176
    http://www.nzherald.co.nz/opinion/news/article.cfm?c_id=466&objectid=10727207
    http://www.stuff.co.nz/the-press/news/5005947/Internet-predator-death-probe

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    Natalia Burgess aka Laura Jane West
     
  18. LeeHere Absent

    LeeHere Absent Just Lee
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    Planking

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    http://www.rotoruadailypost.co.nz/o...social-media-planking-and-netballers/3952242/
    http://bigpondnews.com/articles/Finance/2011/05/22/Santos_sacks_two_workers_for_planking_615919.html
    http://www.foxnews.com/scitech/2011/05/20/despite-deaths-injuries-internet-planking-fad-continues/

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  19. Orfeu Miles

    Orfeu Miles Lurker
    Wtf

    Ye Gods I love the aussies.
    :):clap:
     
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  20. tout

    tout It is swimming time!!
    Mondayblues

    Planking?

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